Sitting in my rocker on my front porch, my husband is mowing our grass, and while it isn't very peaceful, there is something I love. I love the smell of fresh cut grass.
Our home sits on about three acres of land, and he uses a zero turning mower which makes quick work of this chore. It's much faster than using a push mower for sure.
When we lived in the city, he would spray weed and feed, and he would aerate the ground. He made sure the yard was irrigated well. My husband liked a pretty yard.
Now there are so many things going on in our lives, we settle for a mowed lawn. Businesses to run. Kids with active social lives. Kids in sports. Church. So we opt for the KISS method - Keep It Simple Sweetie.
Some friendships require a lot of time and investment. You want to make sure it's healthy and growing, but eventually life happens. Our friendships take a backseat somewhat to life, but friendships must be maintained even if it's touching base by phone once or twice a week.
I have a girlfriend, and we call and check in with each other from time-to-time because we haven't had face-to-face time in a while. Sometimes she calls. She's really so good at it. Sometimes I call.
We make dates to spend time together, to get dinner, to get coffee.
Women need healthy, godly, growing Christian, girlfriends. If you are denying yourself of this blessing, you will look up one day when your kids are out of the house and realize all of your "friends" were actually parents of your kid's friends. When kids go to college, get married or move away, is this woman the kind of friend who will still be there?
You can't just pop up when you need something or want something. You are a user if that is your definition of friendship. If the only time you hear from someone is to ask for something or for a favor, she's NOT your friend.
You can't expect people to be a friend to you, if you are not a friend. If you claim you are a friend, what kind of friend are you? Are you invested in the relationship? Is she invested in the friendship? These are important things to consider when you decide to confide in someone.